Monday, May 21, 2012


This is something that never even crossed my mind when Nathan and I were in the midst of the adoption process.  Here's a scenario which has played out several times since we brought Elijah home:

Random Stranger sees Pretty Lady with Adorable Newborn and decides to ask Pretty Lady questions about her pregnancy.  I really never even considered this happening.  Was I being naive?

Mom and I went shopping in Rockford the other day and had lunch at Olive Garden.  Seeing that I had ordered a Diet Coke, the waitress, who was very nice, asked if it was true that drinking caffeine during pregnancy makes for less calm babies.

We then went to the mall where we stopped at Victoria's Secret because I needed new bras.  The floor attendant got ready to measure my bust and asked me if it was the first time I had been measured "since baby."

It's not so much a problem that this is catching me off guard, the problem is I don't know how to respond without telling everyone in the world that Elijah is adopted.  It's not a bad thing that he is, but I don't want people seeing him as my "adopted son," just my son.

I've also run into a similar problem with people I know, but don't see as often.  I don't know why, but ever since we made the decision to adopt, I assumed everyone we knew would know that's what we were doing.  Turns out, not so much.  Every time I see someone whom I haven't seen in a while and don't interact with on Facebook, they see Elijah, get really excited and say, "I didn't know you had a baby!"

Well...I didn't, but I do.

If there are any other adoptive moms out there who have run into similar situations and have advice how to handle this, I'd appreciate it.  Any non-adoptive moms with advice would be welcome, too.  :)

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